Jeffrey Platts

Jeffrey Platts

Jeffrey Platts is a men's coach and authentic communication expert who is passionate about helping men create amazing relationships with women. With over 20 years of personal study and transformational training, he has led nearly 200 workshops and retreats on personal growth, dating, and communication. Jeffrey's work and writing has been featured in the Huffington Post, Washington Post, ABC News, Authentic Man Program and the Good Men Project. He brings a rich toolbox of insights and experiences to his facilitation, integrating his adventures as DJ, amateur stand-up comedian, salsa dancer, yoga teacher and world traveler.

You’re Going To Have To Start Doing The Work At Some Point

Written by on March 28, 2017

My dear brother, the sexy, well-matched woman you want to meet isn’t going to just show up at your bathroom door while you’re on the toiling swiping left and right on your dating app.  You’re going to have to get

You’re Doing Validation Wrong

Written by on March 21, 2017

Today I looked up the etymology of the word “validation”. Not the modern definition, but the ROOT of the word. Here’s what I found—from Latin validus, “strong, effective, powerful, active,” from valero, “be strong” So at its core, validation is


Written by on March 20, 2017

Two days ago I was at a bar. Not because I like bars. I don’t. But because I wanted to watch the final of the Brazil x Germany Olympic soccer match. And this particular bar was the only place that was

8 Steps To Rock Your Next Date

Written by on March 20, 2017

1. Slow down. 2. Breathe. 3. Give a shit about yourself.  4. Give a shit about her. 5. Give a shit about the connection between you and her. 6. Ask questions and share from that place. 7. Chew with your

The Goal of Being In A Relationship Is Not Enough

Written by on March 20, 2017

Getting a girlfriend or wife is one thing. But to be in a relationship with a woman who is WELL-MATCHED, is a whole other level.  What does that even mean? Well, it first requires you to know (and continually discover)

There Is No “One” Archetype of Manliness

Written by on March 20, 2017

For every stereotypical “archetype” of guy that you think you “need” to be in order to attract a woman, I’ll show you a complete opposite archetype that also attracted an amazing woman. I see it time and time again in

Bro: Be The Woman You Want To Meet

Written by on March 20, 2017

Wait, what? Hear me out. Your next long-term girlfriend (or wife or life partner) is already out there. RIGHT NOW. And if you are anything like me, you prefer a woman who values: Personal growth. Self-awareness. Self-expression. Empowered communication. Now,

Stop Being A Silent Man

Written by on January 6, 2016

If you are a good man, the world is desperately for you to get louder. This isn’t about introversion/extroversion. Or if you’re “alpha” or not. It IS about the palpable energy and relief that comes from a man who is

I Had Confidence All Wrong

Written by on September 10, 2015

The other day I looked up the etymology of the word “confident.” From the Latin origin, it means “with” (com) + “trust” (fidere). So when someone is confident, that means that they are fully trusting themselves. For years, I envisioned

There is No Such Thing as a Real Man

Written by on August 11, 2015

Every week I see another list or article titled something like “How To Know If You’re Dating A Real Man.” Or I hear a woman on a talk show complaining that she just wants to date a “real man.” Well,