Jeffrey Platts

The Goal of Being In A Relationship Is Not Enough

Written by on March 20, 2017

Getting a girlfriend or wife is one thing.

But to be in a relationship with a woman who is WELL-MATCHED, is a whole other level. 

What does that even mean?

Well, it first requires you to know (and continually discover) who the hell you are.

What makes you happy?
What makes you cry? (Do you even cry?)
What are your strengths?
What are your weaknesses?
How do you hide when your emotions get intense?
When do you show up most powerfully?

Then it requires you to know what you want in a partner and how you tend to show up with women.

What have been your patterns in dating?
What unhealthy behaviors do you tend to tolerate?
What lessons have you learned?
What traits might you be putting on a pedestal because society told you to?
What do YOU personally love and value in a woman?

That’s a start.

If you just want a female human to have as a long-term companion and activity partner, then you’ll have an easy box to check off your list.

If you want a woman that is a good fit FOR YOU and you are a good fit FOR HER, that requires a new level of awareness and action.

A great relationship is a vehicle for your growth, not a destination.

Jeffrey Platts is a men's coach and authentic communication expert who is passionate about helping men create amazing relationships with women. With over 20 years of personal study and transformational training, he has led nearly 200 workshops and retreats on personal growth, dating, and communication. Jeffrey's work and writing has been featured in the Huffington Post, Washington Post, ABC News, Authentic Man Program and the Good Men Project. He brings a rich toolbox of insights and experiences to his facilitation, integrating his adventures as DJ, amateur stand-up comedian, salsa dancer, yoga teacher and world traveler.