Jeffrey Platts

I Had Confidence All Wrong

Written by on September 10, 2015

The other day I looked up the etymology of the word “confident.” From the Latin origin, it means “with” (com) + “trust” (fidere). So when someone is confident, that means that they are fully trusting themselves. For years, I envisioned

Stop Complaining About Being Single

Written by on August 26, 2015

STOP complaining about being single. Seriously.  The next potential partner you will meet is going to LOVE the fact that you are single. And AVAILABLE. The same goes for you meeting them and they happen to be single. Being single

There is No Such Thing as a Real Man

Written by on August 11, 2015

Every week I see another list or article titled something like “How To Know If You’re Dating A Real Man.” Or I hear a woman on a talk show complaining that she just wants to date a “real man.” Well,

Talking About A Problem Doesn’t Solve It

Written by on August 10, 2015

“If you can talk brilliantly enough about a problem, it can create the consoling illusion that it has been mastered.” — Stanley Kubrick This is a powerful quote. I know I can get so wrapped up in the art of

Your Next Partner Is Already On Earth—Smiling, Laughing, Farting

Written by on July 27, 2015

Here’s the deal. I meet so many people who are in such a state of despair about meeting their next boyfriend or girlfriend.  “I’m never gonna meet anyone again.” “There are no good men/women out there.” And from that desperation,

Confession: I Like To Watch Sports

Written by on October 29, 2014

There seems so be some ideas floating around that watching or talking about sports is incompatible with (or even beneath) being spiritual or conscious or abundant or authentic. I am into meditation. I coach people to transform their lives. I

Do You Feel Invisible To Women?

Written by on August 9, 2014

4 years ago, I got fed up with feeling invisible to women. And I took action that would forever change my life. For years, I’d immersed myself in the Pick-up Artist bootcamps, read the dating ebooks, memorized “The Cube” and

What To Do When Gratitude Doesn’t Work

Written by on January 20, 2014

I used to hate the word gratitude. But then again, I hate most things that become cliché. But I also know that every cliché has truth. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Actions speak louder than words. Balloons make you

The One Question You Should Never Have To Ask While On A Date

Written by on December 9, 2013

Dating. It can get freakin’ crazy town up in here. One thing has been coming up a lot lately in conversations with clients and friends is the idea of first dates. And what I realized is that the one question

The One Trick To Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

Written by on November 21, 2013

One of my most annoying self-defeating habits is comparing myself to others. Other coaches. Other men. Other writers. Other entrepreneurs. Other couples. Other dancers. I’m not going to sit here and say that I’ve totally gotten rid of that habit,