Jeffrey Platts

Talking About A Problem Doesn’t Solve It

Written by on August 10, 2015

“If you can talk brilliantly enough about a problem, it can create the consoling illusion that it has been mastered.” — Stanley Kubrick This is a powerful quote. I know I can get so wrapped up in the art of

Your Next Partner Is Already On Earth—Smiling, Laughing, Farting

Written by on July 27, 2015

Here’s the deal. I meet so many people who are in such a state of despair about meeting their next boyfriend or girlfriend.  “I’m never gonna meet anyone again.” “There are no good men/women out there.” And from that desperation,

Confession: I Like To Watch Sports

Written by on October 29, 2014

There seems so be some ideas floating around that watching or talking about sports is incompatible with (or even beneath) being spiritual or conscious or abundant or authentic. I am into meditation. I coach people to transform their lives. I

Do You Feel Invisible To Women?

Written by on August 9, 2014

4 years ago, I got fed up with feeling invisible to women. And I took action that would forever change my life. For years, I’d immersed myself in the Pick-up Artist bootcamps, read the dating ebooks, memorized “The Cube” and

What To Do When Gratitude Doesn’t Work

Written by on January 20, 2014

I used to hate the word gratitude. But then again, I hate most things that become cliché. But I also know that every cliché has truth. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Actions speak louder than words. Balloons make you

The One Question You Should Never Have To Ask While On A Date

Written by on December 9, 2013

Dating. It can get freakin’ crazy town up in here. One thing has been coming up a lot lately in conversations with clients and friends is the idea of first dates. And what I realized is that the one question

The One Trick To Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

Written by on November 21, 2013

One of my most annoying self-defeating habits is comparing myself to others. Other coaches. Other men. Other writers. Other entrepreneurs. Other couples. Other dancers. I’m not going to sit here and say that I’ve totally gotten rid of that habit,

2 Reasons Why You Are Invisible To The Opposite Sex

Written by on October 22, 2013

There are two simple things you’re doing that make you invisible to the opposite sex. And everyone, actually. It doesn’t really matter what your sexual orientation, culture or shoe size is. A lot of people talk about the basics of

5 Reasons Why Men Should Cry More

Written by on August 19, 2013

I went through a rough patch earlier this year and one of the things that was pivotal in my healing and growth was my choice to let my emotions flow. To become a connoisseur and student of my own emotional

Why Playing It Safe Isn’t Sexy

Written by on July 16, 2013

Looking back over my life, there were moments where I played it too safe with women. Where I waited for a clear invitation before I moved forward. Where I hid or mildly expressed my true desires and feelings for fear