Jeffrey Platts

2 Reasons Why You Are Invisible To The Opposite Sex

Written by on October 22, 2013

There are two simple things you’re doing that make you invisible to the opposite sex. And everyone, actually. It doesn’t really matter what your sexual orientation, culture or shoe size is. A lot of people talk about the basics of

5 Reasons Why Men Should Cry More

Written by on August 19, 2013

I went through a rough patch earlier this year and one of the things that was pivotal in my healing and growth was my choice to let my emotions flow. To become a connoisseur and student of my own emotional

Why Playing It Safe Isn’t Sexy

Written by on July 16, 2013

Looking back over my life, there were moments where I played it too safe with women. Where I waited for a clear invitation before I moved forward. Where I hid or mildly expressed my true desires and feelings for fear

11 Ways Salsa Dancing Made Me A Better Man

Written by on June 17, 2013

I used to dance for hours alone in my room to Bobby Brown and Father MC. As a quiet kid, hanging out solo with my Sony dual cassette boombox was how I kept my self busy in between school dances.

10 Ways To Destroy Your Mojo

Written by on January 10, 2012

Growing up, I was a shy, quiet, nerdy little dude with pimples. And for some reason, as scrawny as I was as a kid, I insisted on wearing extra-large t-shirts. My mojo was, you could say, not that strong.  As

I am lovable as I am. (So are you.)

Written by on December 14, 2011

In 4th grade, I was the only kid on my block that had this new thing called video games. A wicked fast Atari 800XL with stunning graphics. It gave a reason for friends come over to hang out with me.

Are You An Appreciation Junkie?

Written by on November 20, 2011

For years, I put women on a pedestal. Then I started realizing I’m pretty cool. So many times I thought the woman was awesome, which often times was true. (Other times, I quickly learned it was a total projection.) I would get

6 Ways to Create Juicier Connections With Women (And Anyone)

Written by on November 14, 2011

I used to be a horrible listener. I was so afraid of what a woman thought of me that I was always in my head trying to micromanage the entire conversation. I would stutter. I asked dumb things like “What

Do You Give Up Too Easily?

Written by on November 8, 2011

Let’s say I want to go to on a safari in Kenya.  It would be total sweetness for me to take a non-stop flight from Washington, DC straight onto a little landing strip next to my safari hut. But there

Is Your Dating Fantasy Your Prison?

Written by on October 15, 2011

We all hear it.  ”I like guys who make more than $100K per year.” “I only date Latinas with big butts.” “If she doesn’t love to run marathons, then I can’t date her.” In my previous post, I talked about what happens