Here’s the deal. I meet so many people who are in such a state of despair about meeting their next boyfriend or girlfriend.
“I’m never gonna meet anyone again.”
“There are no good men/women out there.”
And from that desperation, you’d think they have to build their partner from scratch like some sexy Frankenstein. Or order them from some remote love factory.
But you don’t. They already exist.
It seems silly to even have to point this out.
They have already been born. A few decades ago, actually. And they’re out there walking on this big blue planet, just like you.
He is out there hiking with his dog.
She is out there browsing magazines at the bookstore.
He is out there healing from his breakup, getting ready for you.
She is out there grabbing tea with her girlfriends after yoga.
The only missing step is you actually meeting him or her.
And that can happen sooner than you think.
But it won’t happen until you stop focusing in the wrong place.
Until you stop making it harder than it needs to be.
Until you stop letting your thoughts block you from seeing them when they do cross your path.
He doesn’t have to do some Benjamin Button/Marty McFly combo to get into present day. He’s already out there.
Trust in the inevitability of what you want happening.
And be kind and gentle with yourself in the meantime.
You’re not creating a human being from scratch. You are inviting a real, existing person into your experience.
Your job is just to love yourself, get ready and pay attention.
Jeffrey Platts is a men's coach and authentic communication expert who is passionate about helping men create amazing relationships with women. With over 20 years of personal study and transformational training, he has led nearly 200 workshops and retreats on personal growth, dating, and communication. Jeffrey's work and writing has been featured in the Huffington Post, Washington Post, ABC News, Authentic Man Program and the Good Men Project. He brings a rich toolbox of insights and experiences to his facilitation, integrating his adventures as DJ, amateur stand-up comedian, salsa dancer, yoga teacher and world traveler.